Former Nebraska Senator Ben Sasse recently wrote a Wall Street Journal article entitled America Needs Its Boys to Play Football. In it, he makes the case that young men need opportunities to develop strength, ambition, perseverance, self-mastery, and community—and that football, when done right, can help provide them.
There is a tendency in our culture to talk about masculinity through the lens of what can go wrong. Certainly, young men need to understand that strength without character, power without self-control, and aggression without purpose can become destructive.
But the answer to destructive masculinity isn’t to convince young men that strength itself is the problem. It is to teach them what strength is for.

A strong man doesn’t need to prove his strength in every situation. He knows when to compete and when to walk away. He knows when to speak and when to listen. He knows when to lead and when to follow.
He understands that protecting someone is different from controlling them. He understands that having power creates responsibility. He knows that discipline is not weakness and that real confidence doesn’t require constant validation.
And he understands that the strongest person in the room is often the person with the greatest ability to control himself.
That is what football can teach when it is done right.
Football gives young men a place to compete. It allows them to test themselves physically and mentally. It teaches them to push through discomfort, control their emotions, accept coaching, sacrifice for teammates, and keep working when things aren’t going their way. It gives all that energy, ambition, competitiveness, and strength somewhere productive to go.
We don’t need to take strength away from young men. We need to give their strength direction.
Young men need to learn how to be strong—not ashamed of their strength, afraid of their ambition, or apologetic for their competitiveness, energy, or desire to become better.
They need to learn what strength is for.
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